Both Parents is an advocacy publication for equal co-parenting. We
exist for the parents navigating family courts, parental alienation,
and child support obligations that have become unsustainable.a
This affects parents — not a gender. The communities we draw from
include just as many women as men dealing with the same issues, and
the publication's editorial stance reflects that. We don't frame
these issues tribally, and we won't.
Who this is for
Anyone who has watched a family-court process produce an outcome that
doesn't track with how families actually work, and is now trying to
figure out what to do next. That includes:
- Parents in active high-conflict co-parenting situations.
- Parents experiencing parental alienation, in either direction.
- Parents whose child support obligations have become life-degrading,
and parents whose obligor has stopped paying. - Self-represented litigants and the small number of attorneys who
serve them at low cost. - Researchers, policymakers, and journalists working on shared-parenting
reform.
We assume our readers are intelligent, often in crisis, and tired of
content that either dismisses what they're experiencing or weaponizes
it.
How we write
Four rules govern what gets published here.
Cross-gender, never gendered. This affects parents, not a gender.
We rotate examples deliberately, refuse "fathers' rights" and
"mothers' rights" framing, and reject submissions that pretend
otherwise. Read any post on this site with the pronouns swapped — it
should land the same.
Evidence-cited, never personal attacks. Every factual claim links
to a primary source: statute, peer-reviewed study, court record,
agency report. We critique systems, statutes, and rulings — not
private individuals. Public officials acting in their official
capacity are fair subject matter, but only on the record of their
actions.
Personal experience as fuel, not editor. Personal experience is
what makes work in this space credible. It's not what makes any
single piece publishable. Nothing gets published within 24 hours of
the inciting event, and personal stories — when used at all — are
anonymized and used to illustrate a systemic point, not to litigate
a private grievance.
Soft promotion of resources. When we point readers to tools and
organizations, we list multiple options of comparable quality and
let readers pick. (See the disclosure below for one specific case
where this matters.)
What we don't publish
To be unambiguous about it:
- We don't name and shame private individuals — ex-spouses, judges in
private cases, opposing counsel. - We don't publish legal advice. We publish information and point at
licensed help. - We don't speculate about specific cases we don't have the record on.
- We don't recycle men's-rights or feminist-separatist talking points,
in either direction. - We don't write vent posts. If a piece reads as anger, it doesn't go
up.
Who we are
Both Parents is an editorial project, with
plans to formalize as a nonprofit foundation as the publication
matures. The institutional byline — Both Parents Editorial — is
intentional. The arguments here stand or fall on the evidence, not
on the identity of the person making them.
As the publication grows, named contributors will appear for specific
pieces — interviews with academics, contributions from attorneys, a
guest essay where named authorship adds credibility. Bylines will be
clear when that happens.
How this is funded
For now: it isn't. The site runs on a small server, the writing is
volunteer, and there are no ads, sponsorships, or paid placements.
As the audience grows we expect to formalize as a 501(c)(3) nonprofit
foundation, which would let supporters contribute tax-deductibly and
let us pursue research grants. That decision, and the structure
around it, will be made publicly.
What we publish, in practice
We focus on four areas:
- Equal co-parenting — what shared physical custody actually means,
what the research shows about outcomes, where statute and ruling
diverge. - Parental alienation — what the research supports, what it
doesn't, how to document, how to respond. - Family court navigation — practical guidance for self-represented
litigants and the parents working with attorneys. - Child support — how calculations work, when modifications are
available, what to do when obligations become unsustainable.
We publish substantively, not constantly. A skipped week is fine. A
vent post is not.
Get in touch
For tips, corrections, or research collaboration:
contact@bothparents.org.
For story pitches, please include: the angle, your reporting plan,
relevant primary sources, and a clear statement of any conflicts.
We do not provide legal advice, and we cannot review individual
custody or support situations.